The Importance of Saying Goodbye

By: Brian K. Daly
Wednesday, April 19, 2017

When you immediately learn of the passing of a loved one, you are filled with a sense of pain. As you move through the next couple of days you begin your grieving process. With the upcoming funeral or memorial planned this is your opportunity to say your final goodbyes to your loved ones and remember the past memories that you experienced with them.

There will be many questions that you will experience when you learn of their passing, but a big one being whether or not to attend the funeral. It is extremely important in the grieving process to attend the funeral, and say goodbye one final time and pay your respects. Yes, you are going to feel sad, there are many people in that room that are going to be experiencing a same sense of sadness, but think of it as a way to support each other. This is the first step to beginning your healing process and begin to move forward.

 

Below are a few reasons why it is important to say goodbye at a funeral:

 

Support Systems:

It is important to remember that you are not the only one experiencing pain at that funeral. Everyone in that room knew your loved one in some way and are there to grieve, remember, and pay their respects. But it is also important for you to remember to be a support for them, because they are hurting as well. You will have a large support system around you that will be their holding your hand through the pain and guide you through the grieving process. It is up to you, to use them as they help support you through this difficult time. Take a minute alone with your passed loved one, tell them your favourite memories together, then tell them how much you loved them. It is very important to make this last goodbye count.

 

Paying Tribute to Your Lost Loved One:

A part of the grieving process is saying goodbye, but also paying respect to your loved one that has passed. People at the funeral will be sharing stories and fond memories, join in on the stories because it may help you through this process as well. Learning of the love and happiness that your loved one brought to others can be vital to helping you with your grief and by remembering them in a positive light.

No matter what kind of service or ceremony is being held, it is important that you attend not only to pay your respects to your loved one, but to allow yourself to begin healing. If you have any other questions or would like to speak to the professionals at Ocean County Cremation Services, you can contact us here.

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