How to Get Through the First Couple of Weeks after a Death

By: Brian K. Daly
Tuesday, September 5, 2017

They often say that the first few weeks after death are the most difficult as you learn to navigate the different stages of grief as well as returning back to your life after the passing of a loved one. While grief is natural and there is nothing that will take that away, you can do things to make the process easier and help to get through those difficult days.

There is No Such Thing as Normal

Everyone copes differently with grief and no two relationships with the deceased will be the same, so forget about trying to be normal! Also, in the weeks passing a loved one’s death there is often plenty of paperwork, legal matters and things to organise so you’ll find that your normal routine suffers. Be prepared that things won’t be “normal” for some time and don’t stress that they aren’t.

Let Yourself Grieve

It is important that you take time and acknowledge what has happened, recognising how it is going to impact your life. Those who try to bottle it up will often lead to outbursts or destructive tendencies, which can be far more harmful. If you don’t feel comfortable or don’t have anyone in your life to speak to, online resources and grieving support can be a big help.

Be Patient

Take things slow and go easy on yourself, you’ll find that you may have to divide belongings between family members or discuss matters that can still be quite painful. You will get upset and that is okay, it’s still a fresh wound and you need to be patient with yourself.

Know When To Let Go

Hanging on to items of your loved one can be helpful keepsakes and reminders, from memories to who they were as a person. But, people accumulate a lot over their lives and it is unlikely you’ll be able to keep it all. Know that it is okay to let some things go!

The key point to remember is that you need to do what’s best for you during this difficult time so don’t try to grieve according to what other people are doing or what you think is best, it’s a natural process. If you want more advice, visit our website or contact one of our helpful team members who will be happy to answer any questions you have. 

 

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