Tips for Letting Go of a Loved One While Keeping Them Close to Your Heart

By: Brian K. Daly
Wednesday, June 6, 2018

Grieving is a long process that can take years and often causes a lot of pain. Many times, grieving individuals hinder their own progress by feeling guilt regarding their recovery process. They don’t want to forget their deceased loved one but some distance and detachment are inevitable. At Ocean County Cremation Service, we recommend the following tips to help you let go of a loved one while keeping them close as well:

1. Focus on The Good Times

Remembering a loved one is painful and it’s easy to become too focused on the loss. Most people naturally shift from remembering the loss to focusing on the most pleasant memories. This is a healthy way to keep a deceased loved one close without giving up on them. Smiling at the memory of a decedent or laughing when you recall their sense of humor isn’t a bad thing. You remember them at their best, which is a great way to keep them close to your heart.

2. Give Yourself a Break

Sometimes grief can just hit you out of nowhere after some years have passed. Don’t feel guilty about taking a break or crying at this time because recovery isn’t cut and dry nor does it have a timeline.

3. Focus on New Activities

Some people try to avoid activities they enjoyed with their loved ones while others try to keep their life unchanged. It’s a good idea to choose a middle ground by introducing new activities and carrying out old ones with flair. For example, if you always watched special movies with a deceased loved one, watch similar ones alone or with a close friend instead of avoiding them completely. This can help with recovery.

If you want to know more about grieving or want to arrange for a service, contact us at Ocean County Cremation Service today. We’ll be happy to help.

Leave a comment
Name*:
Email:
Comment*:
Please enter the letters you see in the image.

Comments

Please wait

Previous Posts

Unique Ways to Memorialize a Loved One

When a loved one is gone, you want to retain a piece of them to honor their memory. Some choose traditional means like photographs, videos, or paintings while others want something more special and...

Celebrant Or Clergy Member - Which Should I Choose And Why?

All funerals require a celebrant or a clergy member to complete the last rights and offer some words of wisdom. They’re an integral aspect of the funeral process, which is why many family members t...

Personalizing a Funeral Service on a Budget

Many modern funerals don’t follow the rigid structure of traditional services. A decedent’s loved ones often want something unique, truly representative of a deceased individual’s character and lif...

Pre-Planning Your Funeral

Many people aren’t comfortable with the idea of pre-planning a funeral or thinking about death when they’re relatively healthy. However, this process has many benefits that can make life easier for...

What Goes Into the Expense of a Standard Funeral?

Organizing a funeral can be an expensive proposition and most people aren’t aware of the costs up until the time they actually have to plan and pay for one. There are a number of different services...

What Can You Do with the Ashes of a Cremated Loved One?

When a person passes away, people often wonder what they should do with their cremated remains. There are a few different options open to you with reference to what you can do with the ashes of you...

Understanding the Cremation Process

Burying a deceased loved one in a conventional burial ground is a process is more familiar than a cremation. The latter is now being chosen by many for its simplicity, cost-effectiveness, and conve...

5 Tips to Help a Friend Through the Grieving Process

Many people aren’t too sure about how they can help their friend who has lost a loved one, through the grieving process and end up making mistakes. Here are some tips that can help: Go with the ...

Cremation Facts - Everything You Need to Know

Today, many people are veering away from traditional burials and opting for cremations. This is more relevant in the case of individuals that are considering pre-planning their funeral and want to ...

How Does Compounded Grief Affect our Coping Abilities?

Most people find it very difficult to cope with grief and the simple fact is that grief simply tends to build on itself. While some people do manage to cope with their grief in a stable manner, oth...