Tips for Letting Go of a Loved One While Keeping Them Close to Your Heart

By: Brian K. Daly
Wednesday, June 6, 2018

Grieving is a long process that can take years and often causes a lot of pain. Many times, grieving individuals hinder their own progress by feeling guilt regarding their recovery process. They don’t want to forget their deceased loved one but some distance and detachment are inevitable. At Ocean County Cremation Service, we recommend the following tips to help you let go of a loved one while keeping them close as well:

1. Focus on The Good Times

Remembering a loved one is painful and it’s easy to become too focused on the loss. Most people naturally shift from remembering the loss to focusing on the most pleasant memories. This is a healthy way to keep a deceased loved one close without giving up on them. Smiling at the memory of a decedent or laughing when you recall their sense of humor isn’t a bad thing. You remember them at their best, which is a great way to keep them close to your heart.

2. Give Yourself a Break

Sometimes grief can just hit you out of nowhere after some years have passed. Don’t feel guilty about taking a break or crying at this time because recovery isn’t cut and dry nor does it have a timeline.

3. Focus on New Activities

Some people try to avoid activities they enjoyed with their loved ones while others try to keep their life unchanged. It’s a good idea to choose a middle ground by introducing new activities and carrying out old ones with flair. For example, if you always watched special movies with a deceased loved one, watch similar ones alone or with a close friend instead of avoiding them completely. This can help with recovery.

If you want to know more about grieving or want to arrange for a service, contact us at Ocean County Cremation Service today. We’ll be happy to help.

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